Who’s Really Shaping Your Success?

If you’ve ever felt stuck, uninspired, or like you’re treading water in your personal or professional life, it might be time to take a hard look at your inner circle and who is in it.

Why? Because the truth is, the people you surround yourself with are directly influencing your mindset, your actions, your habits and your trajectory. They are the ones influencing you to either become unstoppable or to stay stagnant.

Ever heard the saying -“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."  When you hear that, how does it make you feel? Do you feel aligned?

Your close circle impacts everything from the way you think, the way you feel and the risks you take to the standards you set for yourself. Spending your time with someone inspiring is completely different to spending your time with those who say they want to change but don't or the ones who constantly play victim. You know those who say they want to change but prefer to stay stuck and make every excuse under the sun as to why they are doing so?

So, if you’re serious about elevating your success, your first step is to assess who’s in your corner.

And, the first question to ask yourself is – Are Your Connections Fuelling or Draining Your Growth?

Ask yourself:

• Do the people around me inspire me to be better?

• Are they driven, growth oriented and forward thinking?

• Do they hold me accountable and challenge my perspective or do they play it safe, complain and resist change?

If your circle is filled with individuals who avoid discomfort, shy away from growth, or stay stuck in repetitive cycles, it’s only a matter of time before that energy influences you, too.

On the flip side, when you surround yourself with ambitious, high performance individuals, you naturally elevate your own standards.

Building a High Performance Circle:

So, if you are ready to upgrade your environment? Here’s how:

1. Conduct A Self Audit On Your Current Circle

Take an honest inventory of the people you interact with most. Are they lifting you up or holding you back? Recognising misaligned relationships is the first step toward change.

2. Seek Out Growth Minded Individuals

Find people who push boundaries, take risks and operate at a high level. Join mastermind groups, attend industry events, or engage with leaders in your field. Surrounding yourself with individuals who are where you want to be to accelerate your progress.

3. Cultivate Meaningful Connections

Building a high performance network isn’t just about proximity, it’s about depth. Engage in conversations that challenge your thinking. Find mentors who provide guidance. Form friendships with those who share your drive and vision.

4. Set Boundaries With Energy Drainers

Not everyone in your life will support your growth and that’s okay. Some relationships will naturally evolve, while others may need to be minimised or released altogether. Protect your energy and be intentional about where you invest your time.

5. Become the Person You Want to Attract

Your circle is a reflection of you. If you want to be surrounded by high achievers, be someone who strives for excellence. Show up with commitment, curiosity, and a relentless drive to grow.

Your Future Self Depends on Who You Choose Today

Your environment is a catalyst for your success. Every interaction, conversation, and relationship either fuels your growth or drains your momentum. 

So, if you want to be unstoppable both in your personal and professional life you need to start paying closer attention to who and what is around you.

You have the power to take control of your circle - to choose people who inspire, challenge and elevate you. Because when you surround yourself with the right energy, your potential becomes limitless and when this happens, anything is possible.

Until next time, live a successful, purposeful and fully charged life everyday!

Your coach, 

Bel